Believe it or not, not everyone goes on dates anymore. Nope, online-dating is not the reason for that. Some people are simply too tired of dating, while others think that they’ll never find true love. This decision can never be easy to make, and yet some women have made it. Here are the reasons behind their decisions.
1. I was looking for a fairytale that doesn’t exist.
“I was really hoping that I’d find ‘the one’. I couldn’t wait to go out on a date with someone new. The excitement I used to feel while getting ready for a date was unmeasurable. I loved every part of that process. I’d put on my lipstick and think that maybe this night was the night I get to meet my soulmate. And maybe he’ll say how much he likes that color on my lips. But that never happened. Every date was even more disappointing than the date before and I was nowhere near my goal of meeting the love of my life. I wanted to give up dating for good, but I always thought that maybe the next date will be what I’m hoping for. That was until I realized that no date will ever be what I’m hoping for. Maybe there is no ‘the one’ and maybe I’m just looking for a fairytale that doesn’t exist. But, still, there is a sparkle of hope in my soul that he might come one day. If he exists somewhere in this world, I guess our destiny will find a way for us to meet. But, if he doesn’t, it’s fine. I know how to be alone. Actually, I’m very good at it.”
2. I lost too many hours of my life on people that weren’t worth my time.
“The last date I went on was a complete disaster. He didn’t even act like a gentleman. He didn’t try to get to know me and the only thing that he showed an interest in was himself. And, to be honest, he wasn’t even that interesting. The tragedy of this is that this is not the first bad date I was on. This was only one in a million. So, one day I said to myself that it is enough. I don’t have to put up with that anymore. I have lost too many hours of my life on people who weren’t worth my time. I realize now that some people are meant to be with each other, while others are meant to be alone. I feel like I am part of the second group. It’s not the most pleasant feeling in the world, but it’s something I’ll have to learn to live with.”
3. I’ve already met the love of my life.
“I’ve had one great love in my life. We were together for a very long time and that was the happiest period of my life—that was until he left me for another woman. My world shattered into pieces. I could’ve imagined him as my husband and the father of my children. I didn’t want to think about my future without him in it. And, all of a sudden, I had to. Now I can only imagine the things I wish were possible. When he left, my friends tried to cheer me up. They wanted me to start dating again and to meet some new people. I refused. I don’t see a point in dating when I’ve already met the love of my life. My love for him will never fade away.”
4. I’ve never been in a relationship.
“I have never been on a date. And I simply decided not to go on one ever. I know it sounds crazy, but that’s what I decided. I never got a chance to go out with someone. I’ve never been in a relationship. A lot of people around me go on dates all the time and, based on their experiences, dates are much worse than they seem. None of them have met someone to share their lives with. Dates are just draining their energy—especially when things go wrong and the other person falls for them. I don’t want to lose my time explaining why I don’t want to be with someone. I want it all. I want the whole package. And if that means being alone for a while, so be it. I don’t mind waiting a bit more.”
5. Being happy with a man is not possible for me.
“I have been on too many bad dates and in too many bad relationships. Everything is nice in the beginning. The first five minutes of every date are always fabulous. The first five weeks of a relationship, as well. On a date, after five minutes, I realize I’m not compatible with the guy at all. After those five weeks of a relationship, I start seeing his true colors. I always end up hurting and suffering. That’s why I started putting myself first. I don’t need a man to be happy. Obviously, being happy with a man is not possible for me. That’s why I’m going to work on myself instead of on a new relationship that is already set to fail.”